The Culture-Savvy Leader: Empathy

If curiosity and humility are “head” qualities of the culture-savvy leader, empathy is all about the heart. Empathy toward whom? Everybody: peers from your culture, superiors “back home,” direct reports from both cultures…everybody. Each human being involved in your China venture has something to contribute; each human being in your China venture wrestles in their own way with being in a cross-cultural environment. Whatever struggles you've had, you can bet others have had their own versions of them, or closely related ones, and that some of them might make yours seem small by comparison.

Empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy, while also important, is still self-focused: “If I were in their shoes…” Empathy is deeper: getting yourself as thoroughly into the world of another person as you can, doing your best to experience the world as they do. To do this you have to quiet down your internal mental chatter and just listen. Open up your ears and your heart and let in what others are experiencing.

Sometimes people will come to you; other times you'll notice something in other people's behavior, and will seek them out. Either way, be ready to suspend judgment.

There are still those who think “soft skills” like empathy don't belong in the “hard” world of business. As I discussed in an earlier post on the business of culture, though, what could be “harder” than time, money and goodwill for the success of a business — or of any organization? An environment where people feel heard and understood will unleash their energy and their creativity like nothing else. Problems will be solved faster, more will be accomplished, and people will feel empowered, with a new level of commitment to your organization's success.

I've said it before and I'll keep saying it: China will present you with day-to-day challenges like few other places will. Generating and sustaining empathy will be one of your greatest challenges as a culturally savvy leader — and one of your most rewarding.